“My boyfriend and I have been quite happy as a couple. Love is hard, because we both have a busy life, with plenty of evening and weekend work and have a lot of friends.” A sex therapist, Alexander Witpas advice.

My boyfriend and I have been quite happy as a couple. Love is hard, because we both have a busy life, with plenty of evening and weekend work and have a lot of friends. Therefore, we have a couple of weeks ago, started having sex, to plan our calendar. The problem is that, when the time is right, and there’s just nothing happening. We sat down in the chair, but they are both turned on. What to do now?

for example, If your calendar’s spontaneous, so full that there is no longer a place to have sex, then there is no other solution than to raise awareness of time for you to make a reservation. That is, it is, therefore, absolutely necessary, and it is a good move. But, of course, it is not sufficient to create excitement and to create them. It seems as if you decided to do that, if you are in the time provided for in a single room, you may have the passion, as a fall out of the sky would be welcome to drop in. There is more to it. Below are a few recommendations that you might have to meet your needs.

Kieseen time of the day when both of you still have some energy left. The Plan, for example, is not the end of an exhausting day of work, when you are so tired that you would prefer to go to sleep. The exhaustion and excitement do not really go together.

Avoid sharp edges. If you have sex scheduled to 20uur, and you will have to 19.58 hours have been occupied with, for example, difficult customers, don’t expect that your body and your brain in just two minutes you switch to ‘relax and have a hot and horny’. Do something to get you in the mood to get in a hot bath or listening to some music. A good preparation is half the battle.

you don’t want excitement, just do something exciting. A lot of people are thinking of you and excited for you as you start to make love. However, in a long-term relationship, it is the other way around: you only get it after you’ve let yourself in for. We hope to see you on the other will know what you can get excited.

it is Time for sex, it is a good idea, but don’t forget to also make time for the other aspects of your relationship. In order to take the time to talk to one another, for example, or to do something that you both enjoy. If sex is the only thing that requires you to spend time together, you can do that time is to be loaded to the touch.

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