“I’m not capable”, “I don’t deserve this job”, “The others are much better than me”, etc. There are many demeaning little phrases that weigh down morale in an instant. We tend to utter them more when we are filled with doubts and when we question our professional life. Lack of meaning, balance between personal and professional life violated, burn out, bore out… According to the scientific journal, Journal of Behavioral Science, 70% of the world’s population has expressed negative thoughts at least once in their life. This self-sabotage mechanism is called the impostor syndrome.
Detected in 1978 by 2 American clinical psychologists, it is defined by a set of limiting beliefs persuading us that we are not up to the situation, reports Le bocal academy. Founded on fear, they are nevertheless very false. People who suffer from it often imagine that those around them will unmask their “incompetence”, exclaiming “You are an impostor! You are not legitimate for this position, because you do not have the required skills.”
This syndrome is often experienced by those who are too demanding of themselves. This disorder can also come from childhood, during which the fear of a school test or a bad grade reigned. She mixed with the fear of disappointing her parents, her family or her teachers. The consequences can be multiple: procrastination, intense work to fill imaginary gaps, burn out…
Here’s how to recognize the signs and cope.
Are you considering a retraining or hoping for a promotion, but do not dare to take the plunge? If you experience these different signs, then you probably suffer from impostor syndrome:
In fact, the fear of not succeeding in your professional retraining, of not being able to follow a training course, of not being up to it, invades you. Here’s how to fix it.
To gain self-esteem, evolve and succeed in having the desired professional future, you can:
In order to sweep away negative thoughts, remember to write them down as soon as they appear, read them aloud, then tear them up. You can also take stock of your real strengths and weaknesses, by carrying out a skills assessment, with the help of an expert. You will be able to enhance your strengths and overcome your weaknesses through training, for example, in connection with your professional project.
Does changing jobs scare you? Finances, skills, job market… Talk about your fears to someone you trust (a friend or a professional), who can help you better control your project. You can write them down and write down the solutions and information you found to eliminate them next to them.
There are no small successes. As soon as you reach a milestone in your project, congratulate yourself. It leads you every day towards your success, and the life you desire. The more you train your brain to hear compliments and positive thoughts, the more you will reduce your fear of failure.